Welcome to the first episode of Trooper Chick, a podcast by Krystal Waters to help explore the reasons why we as women stay in crappy relationships, how to get out of them & move forward into living a life full of love & happiness!
Are you stuck in BREAKUP HELL??? In this episode we’re talking about that horrible place we get sucked into after ending a relationship-- BREAKUP HELL! It’s a bad place to be in… but you CAN get out!
Girl, I know it feels absolutely HORRIBLE when you and your bf break up. It's like you totally don't even know who he is anymore... he seems like he wants nothing to do with you... and it sucks!
If you're anything like me, you feel like you've been the absolute BEST gf in the world, wifey material! And you don't even understand why he's breaking up with you. And what's even worse, is when he gets a new gf in like 2.5 seconds. Really??
When the breakup happens, we as women end up having to go through the breakup process, which is basically like the stages of grief. It's like we lost someone, only they're still on earth. And some of us tend to take a LONG time to get over the breakup. But the longer we take to go through the process, the longer we stay stuck in Breakup HELL!
The levels of Breakup Hell:
- Bargaining (Ex-Relapse)
- You're out! >> ACCEPTANCE
Yes, as soon as the breakup has set in as real, we are angry AF. But soon after we get mad and start talking sh*t about him or his new gf, we go right into the sad phase. We beat ourselves up and start thinking that the breakup is all our fault! Let me tell you, it's NOT your fault. It's just life. It's what was meant to happen.
Then BOOM! All of a sudden he's nice to you again. He's hitting you up, wanting to see you, or even asking to get back together (or just hookup). Whether you're social media stalking each other, seeing each other in RL, or texting & trying to find a reason to meet up, you're really just looking for answers and closure. And this is a dangerous stage. Because now that you're cordial to each other, you may actually start to think you want him back.
Now, you have a few choices in Breakup Hell.
- You can get back in the cycle of breaking up and getting back together.
- Or you can decide to be friends.... which really doesn't work well after having a deep emotional connection with this man.
- Or you may decide to be friends with benefits (which is a mistake! Don't do it girl!)
But all of this prevents YOU from getting close to a new man who may actually want to be with you forreal. (Not for fake like your ex!)
And in the end, your feeling are still going to get hurt. With any of these options, you're really just stringing yourself along for the ultimate finally: the real final breakup and a broken heart.
You also have one choice that will ultimately get you out of Breakup Hell as soon as possible!
- And that's to MOVE ON!
Gray areas are not beneficial. If he didn't want to claim you as his, didn't want to be with you anymore, treated you like shit, why would you even want to hold on to him?
In order to move forward in life, you've got to let go of the past, and let go of peopole who don't benefit your life.
It's about self-respect. Respect yourself enough to only spend your time with people who love you and deserve you. If he only wants your body, he's not worthy of your time.
So stop dragging out the pain for longer than it needs to go on. Deal with the breakup, don't get sucked into the Ex-Relapse. Don't string yourself along for more emotional damage. The breakup happened for a reason. So let it go, stay strong, and deal with the pain now, so that you can move on faster!
Respect yourself enough to demand what's important to you, to stop settling, and to only accept what you know you deserve.
It's time for us as women to be with REAL men, not little boys who play games.
It's truly your choice to end it forreal, or to stay in breakup hell. Make your choice, and GET THE HELL OUT!
Quote of the day:
"When you close one door, another one opens. But we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us." -Alexander Graham Bell
WORK WITH ME!