Posted by Erick on October 19, 19102 at 13:20:24:
In Reply to: particulars on searching and pleasuring posted by Jaded on October 08, 19102 at 02:28:08:
First of all, congratulations on wanting to make your experience a pleasurable one. Sure you can give your girl money or gifts, but a good orgasm is a very special gift indeed.
I did not have any experience until two weeks ago when my girlfriend and I had sex for the first time. Before that, I wanted to find out everything there is to know about sex and pleasuring women. I have been reading this forum and other internet sites for two years, but I have not posted here until now. Experience is what you get through doing. Education is what you get through reading. If you are not sure on what to do, educate yourself! There are plenty of sites to read online. Bite the bullet and devour as much information as you like.
Now, as I was saying, neither of us had any experience, but I had the knowledge. She did not have any knowledge. In fact she didn't even start masturbating until a year ago because she didn't know how. Nobody ever told her about her clitoris until then. Sad situation if you ask me.
But I guess that's the first step. Talk to your girl about sex. Talk about what you know, what you don't know, what you want to do, what your concerns are. Communication is the cornerstone to a good relationship. My girl and I have been very open in talking about sex, and it's funny because we're so shy around other people. But we love each other and we trust each other, so that helps.
When it gets down to it, just let it happen gradually. Do what feels natural and comfortable. I don't want this to sound like a how-to formula, but this is how my GF and I progressed.
First of course is lots of kissing. Then she took my shirt off, then I took her shirt off. Don't ignore the breasts. ;) Ask her what she likes and what feels good to her. You can't be a good lover without feedback of some sort.
One day when things got hot, she had her hand in my pants, and I slid my hand into her pants and rubbed her clitoris until she came. A week after that I went down on her. Then she went down on me. The next week we were lying together naked at the edge of the slippery slope, so to speak. We both desperately wanted sex, but we didn't want to damage our relationship. I asked her, "This is the moment of truth. Yes or no?" She said yes.
Since then we have been exploring our sex life, finding out what we like and what each other likes, and indulging in our pleasures.
Now since this is a FE board, I have to talk about that side as well. My girl said she ejaculated once when she was really turned on while masturbating. She assumed she peed, but she heard about FE on a radio talk show. It's good to know that someone's getting the word out somewhere. So I've told her about FE and the G-spot, I've even fingered her G-spot a bit, but nothing has come of it yet (pun intended). But hey, it's only been a few weeks. I have a lifetime to explore this. I'm a patient guy. I care more about making her happy than making her squirt. Some of the other guys on here need to think about that. :)
I hope my story helps you, Jaded. Let me know how it goes. Relax, have fun, and enjoy!